They make you old and you hate it, but what can you do. Children are very hard to handle and will take you to hell and back. I suppose I had so many because I was raised alone. Then when I get to thinking back, I realize I was trying to be what my husband wanted and that was to be pregnant by him. Somehow, even after all that happened, it didn't save the marriage. It only made things worse and finally he would leave or I would throw him out because of the abuse. So, there.........yes, I was abused by all of my husbands and had children by 3 of them.........what a mess.